6 Tricks Guys Can Win Relationship Fights

Regardless of the type of man you are — strong with bold opinions, moderate with no taste for confrontation or passive with a gelatinous backbone — guess what? Unless you're made of wood, you are going to be dating, you are going to get into arguments, and the expectation (at least from the female perspective) is that you are going to lose those arguments.

Any type of man could, at any time, find himself in any kind of an argument. The trick to saving face in a fight is to always be prepared. You wouldn't go out for a night on the town without some cash and a pressed shirt, would you? So why would you head into a relationship battle without your best artillery?

There are rules to follow.

Nobody wants to be that guy in the corner getting a lecture from his best gal, especially when he could have come out unscathed.

Logic is frequently abandoned when you're arguing with your girlfriend for one reason: She will not admit she is wrong. Ever. Not going to happen — so put it out of your head.

No matter how compelling you may be or how wrong she might be, fair is not the name of the game. The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.

Different men have different expectations about winning arguments, but the art of war is the same. Here are a number of tricks to ensure that you'll never lose an argument with your girlfriend.


Don't Raise Your Voice

Regardless of the nature of your fight, watch your voice. No matter what you have planned in your defense, always speak softly. If you're the composed one, her anger will only run its course. Settle in for a long one, but remember: If she joins you on a conversational level, you've won.

Be the First Man to Listen

Men have a reputation for being poor listeners. Be the exception. She wants to talk and yell, so let her. But when it comes time for you to cough up a defense, reiterate her points back to her to prove you're listening to — and understand — what she's saying.

If you spend your cross-examination explaining her to her by recapping her words, you may never actually have to ever have an original thought. And she'll think you're the keenest listener on the block.


Stay on the Subject at Hand

Whether the battle royale is about music, dinner reservations, Depp flicks or the State of the Union, pick your battle and fight strong. Arguments are won or lost on the ability to prevent other gripes from creeping into the contest at hand. When the mood is confrontational, bring up nothing but that which you have been called out on.

Admit Wrong and You Win

Sometimes winning an argument is more about the aftermath than the battle. She can never, ever win a fight if you admit you are wrong first. Check your pride at the door. There will be tiffs in which you won't care if you're the victor.

In these instances, no matter how much she wants to spar, lay down dead. Sometimes a nice glass jaw in the ring will score you big sensitivity points with the judges. The scorecards will come in, and the winner, by unanimous decision, will be you.

Play the Emotional Card

There are times when women just want to fight because they're feeling emotional. What we forget is that men also want to fight because we are emotional. It is about the release; and what so ingrained to avoid, which has the same consummate effect, is letting the emotions flow.

Fight strong, and fight with honor. But do not be afraid to act hurt by the things she says. To a woman, an aggressive man who shows emotion in the heat of an argument is the king of men. And you'll always win.

Tell Her Off

Many men have stood with their hand on the little button, ready to end life as we know it. It is where the men and the boys are separated. If winning the argument is worth destroying the relationship, or if destroying the relationship is worth winning back your life, then fire personal insults at will. But be warned: There is no going back after you input this launch code. Remember that civilization as you know it can be a tough thing to rebuild.

For Argument's Sake…

Take all arguments with your lady with massive grains of salt and remember: You can always win by letting her believe what she needs to believe. That should be clear about four seconds in.

Where we stumble is when we need to prove to ourselves that we can win no matter the contest. Don't forget that it is in our nature to protect what we believe.